Youth Sport Podcast
Dr. Jim Taylor
“We want mental wellness, not mental hell-ness!” – Dr. Taylor
This episode on The Youth Sport Podcast was great in so many ways. The reality of becoming an elite athlete and becoming a pro is often lost on misguided parents and coaches. Dr. Jim Taylor has been working with elite athletes, researched and taught Sport Psychology, has created countless resources to help parents and kids along their sport journey, as well speaks publicly to sport groups and schools about how to create the best sport environment for upcoming athletes.
His stories will shake up your reality and also offer some perspective on how we’re operating and how we could benefit from taking a step back and re-evaluating our coaching and parenting philosophies.
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Here’s what Dr. Jim Taylor and I talked about:
- Dr. Taylor’s story as a young lazy athlete ant how a coach gave him some tough love to change things around
- “Seeing things in me that I didn’t even see in myself” – How a sport coach can impact their athlete
- “One of the biggest problems parents and coaches make is focusing too much on results”
- Dr. Taylor tells us what we should focus on with our kids.
- “All potential means is that you haven’t done a darn thing yet!”
- Are you focusing on LTAD or STAD (Long term athlete development or Short term)?
- Kids that were super stars at age 13 didn’t get that much better, there’s no guarantee to stardom
- Focus on “passion, joy, life lessons, improvement, individual progress”
- 70% of kids drop out of organized sports between the ages of 9-13…why?
- Can you become the best in the world and not grow up in a toxic environment?
- “Youth Sport Industrial Complex” What is it and why is this important?
- “All parents are well intended, some are misguided, and few are mentally ill”
- “My parents happiness is on my shoulders when I go on the field”
- “The messages we get most, are the things we become”
- What is the “too” zone?
- The journey shares kids into incredible people
- What is youth athlete success?
- Happiness: do you have to choose between success and happiness?
- CRAZY youth parent example (based on a true situation)
- Great youth sport example…not exactly the outcome you would think!
- How coaches can help with toxic parents
- Creating a culture of openness and decency with your team/athletes.
- “Step back and get perspective…because if you are accepting abuse with your child, or inappropriate behaviour, so they’ll become great…you need to reevaluate your life and your values/priorities!”
- How to handle opposing toxic teams
- Healthy competition, kids need to learn how to compete when it’s appropriate
- “Tears are red flags”, devastated by performance or failure
- “Devastation is not a good motivator”
- “Teenagers lack the neurocapability to make these decisions and discriminations and sit back to decide: Is that really a healthy thing?”
- Helping kids self regulate
- “You want your kids to be disappointed…it triggers something positive…motivating emotion
- How to get the most out of your athlete
- Helping create balance to have fun and when to listen and to put in the work…create good habits
- Final coaching and parenting advice
And now…the full conversation…